Hello, loves!
My name is Lupe, and I am what I like to call a former “Hot Mess.” Throughout my 20s, it looked like I had the world on a string. I was an international flight attendant traveling the world, living in the sizzling heat of Dubai, kissing cute boys, and drinking champagne under the stars on yachts in the cutest shoes. I was living the life of my dreams, but I was M.I.S.E.R.A.B.L.E. And I couldn’t understand why! I had created the life I had always wanted, so why was I always crying? Why did I feel like a failure? Why did I always feel so alone when I was surrounded by so many people? Why couldn’t I keep a relationship? What was wrong with me?
The reality was this: I didn’t love myself, and because of that, I didn’t know how to take care of myself. And that doesn’t just mean I didn’t know how to exercise, eat healthy, drink water, and get enough sleep (although I ALSO didn’t do any of these things). It means I allowed myself to be in relationships with people who used me and treated me terribly. It means I spent money carelessly to make myself feel more confident, sexy, important, better—insert your word here. It means I ignored and pushed down hard-to-deal-with emotions and unresolved traumas and used alcohol, sex, money, sleep—again, insert your word here—to feel better. It meant not recognizing that I had undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. Don’t even get me started on my toxic relationship with social media, using it as a very unhealthy source of validation. I was A HOT MESS. I felt completely out of control. I was impulsive, reactive, and spiraling. It felt like I was sitting in the backseat while all my negative emotions and thoughts ran my life. It was EXHAUSTING.
Fast-forward to now, after years of therapy, self-help books, retreats, podcasts, YouTube videos, meditation, coaching, and anything else you can think of. Today, I am a transformed person who is the master of her life. I strive every day to live the most fulfilling and meaningful life—one that honors ME. I did this by going deep inside myself and battling the most terrifying demons, only to learn that they were just scared parts of me who wanted to keep me safe. I learned to love the good, the bad, and the ugly in me. I learned that once you change one area of your life, every area changes along with it. It was terrifying, challenging, and I cried A LOT. But as my favorite quote by Aristotle says, “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”
That light is what inspired me to become a coach. When I realized that I could take control of my thoughts, emotions, and life, it was like truly seeing the light for the first time. And when I looked around, I realized that so many people were also walking around in darkness They, too, were SLAVES to their emotions and thoughts, living on autopilot day after day. So, I decided to return to school when to get my bachelor’s in psychology, and today I am completing my master’s degree at Northwestern University. I am being trained in a holistic approach that focuses on every aspect of a person’s life. Nothing exists inside a vacuum, everything in a person’s outer world plays a role in their inner world. Everything is connected, and as I said, if you start the journey to change one area of your life, then all the other areas change too.
I still occasionally jet around the world as a flight attendant, and I still get ridiculously dressed up and dance under the stars while drinking champagne. The difference is I am now in control of my life, and I want you to be as well. My passion in this life is helping people become the highest versions of themselves so that they can be the masters of their own lives and go on to share their gifts with the world too.
I am so excited that you are going on this journey with me, and I hope I can help you learn to love yourself, even if it’s in the smallest way.
Xoxo, Lupe Love
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